All emotions are pure which gather you and lift you up; that emotion is impure which seizes only one side of your being and so distorts you.
Rainer Maria Rilke
Let’s go back to our nursery class and revise the story of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. It a typical happily ever after tale with a girl who is banished from her kingdom by a villainous step mother whose jealous of her beauty. So the girl, snow white, begins to live in the forest with the seven dwarfs and now we come to the important part, the names of the dwarfs were Grumpy, Happy, Lazy, Bashful, Dopey, Dreamy, and Stealthy. (Well, I made up one or two but you get the picture right?)
A girl is made to live alone in the forest, she has been thrown out of her home, and she can’t be the happy go lucky girl they have depicted in the story right? Well, yes I get the fact that I’m practically ripping the fairy tale to shreds but just for a moment think about it like a practical situation.
The story then goes on that she takes care of the dwarfs and does the cleaning of the house and practically acts as a care taker. So far, so good.
Here’s my take on the story and maybe there’s a snowball chance that you might relate with it.
Snow white lived alone in the cottage. She took care of herself and the house.She did the cleaning and washing and made the cottage her home. And the twist in the tale is that those seven dwarfs were her emotions which she went through each day. At times she was lazy and sometimes sad. Some days she would be extremely happy and on other days she would be as grumpy as an old lady.
Now leaving Snow White,in the story, where she belongs. Let us relate it with ourselves. We all are Snow Whites in our own world. Obviously, men are the male version of Snow White but I hope you get the picture.
We all are dealing with our emotions every minute of the day. Not just these seven emotions or ‘dwarfs’ but there are a million emotions a person goes through every single day. It’s really mind boggling. And as a silent spectator one would be in awe of the human brain… and heart too.
Even though I’m calling them dwarfs but in reality life is all about emotions. No one in this world is devoid of them. Love , hate, jealousy, envy… it goes on.
Honestly, I can't tell you how to ‘deal’ with them per se.Snow White dealt with them by keeping herself busy.
I prefer to keep quiet and just silently kill myself thinking over stupid stuff while stuffing myself with chocolates. One of my friends likes to throw things about and shout out. Then, there’s this guy who just speaks and speaks until he wears out. So every person has a unique way to deal with the inner turmoil.
But what I am certain of, just like Snow White did, we have to treat our emotions separate from us. We need to work and move on with our life, keeping aside the sadness or anger we are feeling. If we divulge ourselves totally into our feelings we wouldn’t be able to accomplish much. At times, emotions lift you up but at the same time there are days when they weight you down. You cant keep on thinking about every stupid decision you have ever made or every guilt that you have stored because its never going to get you anywhere.
If Snow White had just kept on thinking about the injustice done to her we wouldn't have had our fairy tale. Instead she went on about her life and found her happily ever after.
“I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” Oscar Wilde.
Personally speaking, I’m practically handicapped when I’m really mad. I’m just a worthless, moping, angry girl when I’m angry at a loved one. Not worth much right?
I’m not saying you stop feeling. No one can. And believe me, a person without emotions is dangerous in every sense of the word. I’m just saying don’t let them effect you to such an extent that all your energies are directed at a single point.
And most importantly, make the people around you smile. Even when you are breaking inside, make atleast one person smile. Believe me, there isn’t any emotion greater than love and happiness.
I know, I know, its verrrrrry cheezy. But personal experience tells me nothing beats it.
Let go of the crap that’s keeping you from flying.
Hold on to stuff that's making you great.
In the end what matters is being true to who you are and being a hard working Snow White...minus the evil-stepmother act.